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INTP – The Jerk Process

I love taking personality tests, especially Myer’s Briggs. People commonly mistake a personality test with a person’s personality, but the two don’t correlate. Actually, personality tests reveal how a person processes, not how they will behave. For example, I’m an INTP. In short, I’m optimistic, creative, spontaneous, great in a crisis, relaxed, stubborn, insensitive, private, easily bored, hate commitment, and I tend to indulge in dangerous behavior. Most people may scoff, “You? Optimistic?” Yes, haters. I’m actually quite positive, though I trash talk with the best of ’em. But that’s…

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IMG_3040 Life 


When I was a kid, I thought tears were horrible. Crying was the worst thing. It meant that I was hurt. Weak. Sad. Frustrated. Angry. Tears meant a lot of things. Now that I’m a father, I realize that tears mean growth. Sometimes I have to let my son cry and that hurts. But I know that he’s learning something in that moment. Consequently, he may learn that he cannot trust me for everything. But that’s just like spirituality. Sometimes I cry and wonder why God would let something bad…

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Blue or Black Hoodie Life 

White or Gold Dress? Blue or Black Hoodie?

Blue or black. White or gold? This debate went viral yesterday. Consequently, I was distracted enough to forget about the hoodie that killed Trayvon Martin. That young man died on the same day that we got distracted by this “debate.” On February 26, 2014, a child was shot down by someone who continues to break the law. I wonder how many Facebook photos would have changed yesterday if this wasn’t such a large issue. How many hoodies would have been posted again? Maybe none. Maybe many. The great dress debate could…

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2 Story_0 Life Writing 

Two Sides to a Story

It’s amazing how two people can tell one story differently. An elementary student views a teacher’s criticism as embarrassing. To be reprimanded in front of their friends can seem like the end of their world. But the teacher can view that moment as an opportunity for growth. A husband can kiss his wife goodnight to express his love. The wife can think he has an ulterior motive. “He wants something.” A guy can think that he finally made love to his girl. The girl can feel that she was raped. There…

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Accidents Happen

I got into an accident today. I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel. I didn’t get much sleep the night before because my son’s Levana Oma decided to go off every twenty minutes for an hour. Then, there was the feeding. Still, I managed to avoid slamming into the car in front of me when the brakes were applied. Yet, the lady behind me couldn’t manage. The damage isn’t serious. I’m just a little frustrated because I got that car after another accident. Ironically, that wasn’t my fault either….

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White Noise 2 Life 

White Noise

The above image was a view from my friends’ beautiful wedding. If you look closely enough, you’ll see a helicopter hovering above the lake. We were delayed by two hours because of the white noise that the helicopters produced. There was a fire in the mountains that you see in the image. When things were at their worst, one of the other groomsmen asked, “Is that mist or smoke?” Smoke. There was no hope at that hour, due to the 104 degree temperature. Of course, even after two hours, the choppers…

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IMG_1204 Life Writing 

What You Value

Values. They’re tricky little monsters. In the past, I valued sleep. Independence. Growth. Maturation. And an enhancement in my own skills–teaching and writing. After my son was born, I found those values shifting. Now, I value collaboration. Time. And laughter. Growth and maturation are two things I could never give up, but I try to find a balance. I don’t dedicate my life to writing for hours. I also dropped a nasty habit of researching. Google has been my friend for years, but we’re spending a lot less time together. When…

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perfect Life 

Perfect You

People actually use the improper definition of perfect. The dictionary defines perfect as: Conforming entirely to the description/definition an ideal type. Completion or excellence beyond practicality. Fitting the need of a certain situation/purpose. When describing perfection, we often look to being “flawless.” Yet, being without flaws is theoretically impossible. To be perfect is to learn from a flaw and make adjustments based on a particular situation. When I think of perfect, I can’t help but to think of my wife. There are many mistakes that we both make when raising our…

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Tomorrow Life 


Ever hear people talk about tomorrow as though it were today? I’m going to start working out… We should hang out… I need to stop smoking. This is my last pack, but… I’m going to give them a call… I’ll look up classes… In general, today is as good as tomorrow. Sometimes, we actually need to focus on tomorrow to get through today’s problems. But when it comes to your goals, aspirations, health, relationships, and overall well-being, today will always beat tomorrow.

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IMG953610 Life 


It’s official. I’m a daddy. My little man exited the womb last Friday at 3:54 pm. He gave his mom a hard time on the way out, but she had an extremely fast labor, so I’m happy. One of my close friends, Tracy, recently asked, “Are you ready to be a father?” To that, I had a very snarky reply. Now that my guy is by my side, I’m definitely ready. More than ever, I’m scared. I’m not afraid of taking care of him or the lack of sleep. I’m…

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