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chivalry Writing 

The Oppressive Nature of Chivalry

My dad never called it chivalry, but we always opened doors for women and stepped to the side of an elevator when ladies were behind us. And he didn’t teach it to me regularly. It was something that blindsided me. I was still in elementary and suddenly my dad was teaching me this foreign concept: “they” were different from “us.” Most of what I learned about chivalry was inactive. Pops told me once or twice that ladies should enter first, but I never knew why. It was just what a…

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The Best Part of Daddyhood

Daddyhood Words can’t explain the best parts of being a dad. (Even our expansive language is limited when it comes to something so expansive). But if I had to pinpoint one thing that really makes parenting great, I’d have to say something like: Daddyhood is complex sport. It’s being both a spectator and a player in the most complicated game in the world. As a spectator, I watch my child grow from a seed to a flower. As a player, I’m right beside him, participating in the National Life Association League…

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Sharing Culture

A simple ‘truth’ just hit me with incredible weight. I just realized that my son may be raised in the middle class. This means that he and I will have different cultures and probably struggle to relate to each other. Most people may think, so what? Isn’t that a good thing? I can’t say that it is. I grew up somewhere between the working class and the working poor. My parents had stable jobs, but we always lived paycheck to paycheck, and they pulled a lot of payday loans to…

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graduated Life 

Bruh…They Graduated

Yes. This is my first time writing in 3 months. Let’s not pretend like I don’t disappear for long stretches. Why have I been so busy? My babies graduated. Two years ago, I began teaching English and History at Environmental Charter. (I always pretend like I wasn’t a History teacher because I hate the subject, but that’s another subject). As a 7th grade instructor I endured many challenges–mostly puberty. Our first year ended in a big success. My students went from averaging a 3rd grade reading level to a 6th….

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Why ‘Self-Helps’ Don’t Help (Part 2)

Review In yesterday’s post, I decided to expose the “psychic nature” of Self-Helps. In other words, I expressed reasons why Self-Helps don’t work. Today, I want to give specific examples. I’d like to compare real life situations to Self-Help genres. Why ‘Self-Helps’ Don’t Help Relationships Let’s start with the numero uno, grand champion of failing Self-Helps. First thing to note in Amazon’s genre filter: Relationship books aren’t even listed under Self-Help. They’re hidden. The smart people at Amazon know that if you’re looking for a novel about being a better…

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Black Ranger Writing 

Finding Your Skill(s)

It’s easy to say, “I have no skills.” I almost think it’s natural. If you’re a humble human being, you may not look at yourself as the best or brightest, but you have to know your strengths and abilities. Finding or recognizing those strengths can be a journey in itself. When I was a kid, I thought of stories all day long. Once Mighty Morphin Power Rangers went off, I would mentally clothe myself in the Black Ranger’s uniform. Then, I’d throw my best attempt at a round house kick….

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Why Are All Love Stories The Same?

I tried writing about how love is unique to each person and how authors should capture that, but I can’t. It’s not true. Sure, the way you experience something is unique, only you can feel certain emotions. But other than that, there’s really no difference in the ways we fall in love. Love first involves vulnerability: You ever make that phone call to your special someone? You either want to confess to them right now or ask them on a date tomorrow to express your feelings. The reason you’re so…

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